To anyone who is currently crying, sans pants, sans dignity

Oh wait, that’s just me isn’t it.

Here’s what someone who is addicted to love has to say about breakups and losing the supposed love of your life. There’s nothing wrong with loving someone with your heart and soul. Just because they got over you way quicker than you ever thought about putting the ice cream back into the freezer doesn’t mean that’s your problem. It’s theirs.

I was crying hysterically this morning, as it is with every morning. Only this morning was different, I blocked his number. I made a change. Let me tell you, if your best friends, parents, everyone who has listened to you bemoan your pathetic downfall tell you to block him, you block him. It doesn’t matter if he still wants to be friends or texts you everyday. He is not worth the years that you have spent building a relationship with your friends. Ultimately sisters before misters, bros before hoes. That’s it.

You cannot move forward unless you have fully accepted the fact that he most likely will NEVER feel the same way about you again. That whatever you had, the beautiful memories, are in the past and NOTHING can change that. You cannot change his feelings. To those who haven’t learned this hard truth, you can NEVER change anyone. No matter how much they love you, change comes from within period. If you don’t like something about someone you have to either accept their flaws or move-the-fuck-on. So here’s to me moving-the-fuck-on, because I’m pretty sure the “i don’t love you as much anymore” flaw cannot just be accepted.

Have some standards people. The only reason you believe you need this person is because of your addiction. You thought you couldn’t live without them? Where here you are, living and shit. Although it FEELS like you are dying, surprise surprise, your organs are not slowly disintegrating. So pick yourself up, because not even your best friend that you call every 4 hours because you are convinced you are #foreveralone can do this for you. This is YOUR BATTLE. This may be the hardest thing you will ever have to face, but its all you. OWN IT. Life gave you, not your ex, this challenge, probably because you needed it. I mean just look at you (take a shower, seriously).

The most important thing to consider: You are not placed on this earth to find a husband/wife. If you want love, you have love. Your parents love you, your friends love you. That cuddling and romantic shit? That’s for the teenagers, you already HAD that. Now you have the opportunity to build yourself up and when you’re finally walking around like hot shit, you don’t even need a milkshake to bring the boys to your yard.

At least, that’s what I’m telling myself. Hey, whatever it takes for you to coax yourself out of bed and to rejoin civilization right?

-B